Christmas is one of the most exciting times of the year for most of us. But along with all the magic and joy, the festive season also brings sensory overload, disrupted routines and big emotions. This can be incredibly overwhelming for any child - especially when families are also navigating separation or new co-parenting arrangements. For children with special educational needs and disabilities (SEND), Christmas can be even more challenging.
So we’ve donned our Santa hats in the Bath Family Law office and put together 12 “dos” (not days) of Christmas! A dozen practical ways you can help your children feel more secure, connected and understood this holiday season, whatever their needs.
1. Prioritise predictability
Plan early and keep changes to a minimum. Children feel calmer and more emotionally safe when they know what to expect.
2. Create a shared Xmas plan
Consistent messaging between parents builds security. Agree on handover times, key events, and routines where possible.
3. Use visual schedules
Even neurotypical children benefit from structure and clear timetables. Visuals are particularly helpful for kids who struggle with transitions or abstract explanations.
4. Keep sensory needs in mind
Lights, noise and social expectations can overwhelm any child. Create quiet spaces and follow your little one’s cues.
5. Support emotional regulation
Christmas brings big feelings, from overstimulation and joy, to disappointment and sadness about family changes. Validate emotions and keep your tone steady and calm.
6. Relieve the pressure
The picture perfect celebration isn’t a reality for most families. If your child needs to stay in their pjs, or step away, that’s ok.
7. Keep transitions gentle
Moving between homes is tough. Keep handovers calm, and allow children space and time to settle into their new environment.
8. Share key information
Updates about energy levels, emotional wobbles or sensory challenges prevents misunderstandings and helps maintain consistency between homes.
9. Travel with familiar items
Comforters, snacks or sensory tools can help children feel safe and grounded during holiday transitions.
10. Simplify gift expectations
Too many presents can overwhelm any child. Consider slowing the pace, spacing out unwrapping and agreeing gift boundaries between households.
11. Schedule recovery time
Festive activities can be exhausting for children (and adults!) Build in guilt-free downtime and rest, it’s essential for regulation and emotional well-being.
12. Lead with compassion
Co-parenting isn’t easy, and it’s ok if you feel you’ve lost a little of your sparkle this year. Remember to be kind to yourself (as well as your kids) this Christmas.
